Dating Lesson 9: When someone exits your life, thank them!
Dating Lesson 8: Differences in faith can break a relationship, but it doesn't have to.
That was mistake number one. Desperation + no guidelines for what I wanted or needed.
The whole relationship was a fiery mess of passion and delusion. I kept telling myself that we could make it work and we would figure it out.
One night he broke up with me over text and gave no explanation for it.
Dating Lesson 7: Don't bleed all over the people you love because you are unwilling to address and heal your wounds.
There was one hangup in our relationship.
He was a devout Christian, and we both struggled to support each other's differences in beliefs.
I believe in God, and he believed in God, but all of the small details in between continued to become arguments and during those fights, we couldn't seem to respect each other's boundaries.
Dating Lesson 6: You can't stay in a broken relationship because you love his family.
It's no wonder that I attracted him to my life during this time. I needed the bright light that he freely shared with everyone, but I didn't realize that my darkness would dim his fire and make his world more difficult.
At the time I was deeply hurting inside. I didn't know how to fix it, and my only solution was to drink. Every waking hour that wasn't spent at work I was drinking to change the way I felt.
Dating Lesson 5: A hookup did not fill my void. It's like eating cookies when I really needed fruit and veggies.
It was tempting to stay because I needed his mom. I couldn't imagine life without her, but for some weird reason, I couldn't imagine being with him. It made no sense in my brain, and it was a total mind fuck.
Dating Lesson 4: Your guy best friend definitely wants a relationship with you.
There was always this feeling of what would happen next. I knew I didn't want to date him, and I was enjoying being single, but I am going to be honest here... the attention filled something inside of me that I was missing out on fulfilling for myself!
Dating Lesson 3: The guy who says he doesn't want a relationship will NOT change his mind, and it has nothing to do with your worth.
I had a guy best friend for a few years, we were neighbors and spent a lot of time together. We would stay up late writing term papers, smoking hookah, and having deep conversations on the meaning of life.
He was the perfect date to events that I needed to attend and always made sure I got home from the bar okay…
Dating Lesson 2: If you are online dating, understand how it works!
I once dated this guy who was very forward from the start that he did not want a relationship, and that he was currently seeing other women. He said all the other women heard the same words at the beginning of any of his casual dating experiences. I don't know why I didn't go running for the hills, but something in my mind kept saying... "this sounds like a fun challenge."
Dating Lesson 1: It's not about the fairytale wedding.
I have spent a lot of time in the online dating world... at one point my friends called me the tinder queen! I had three successful relationships from online dating, but in the beginning, I had no idea what I was doing and ended up with a ton of online dating horror stories... this is one of them!
I was engaged to my middle school boyfriend. We went our separate ways for years and reconnected my last year of college. We had the perfect story. He went off to the army, and I went to college. My college boyfriend didn't work out, and we found ourselves back together again…